Project Lessons Learned Recipes

How do you say “no” without insulting the other person, feeling consumed with guilt, or hurting your own credibility? We need to find a way to say “no” without dragging up all of those HIDDEN FEARS — they’ll think I’m lazy or selfish, that I have no career drive, that I’m not ambitious, that I have no concern for other people. And it’s time to give up all of those roles you’re so proud of — supermom, martyr, hero — but are keeping you from finding true peace. Once you’ve accepted that you have the right (and often responsibility) to turn someone down, you can do it in a way that doesn’t seem like a REJECTION. This is what I had learned from an article. Let me show you how:

1. “I CAN’T RIGHT NOW, BUT I CAN DO IT LATER”

If you really want to help the person but don’t have time now, tell them so. Offer a later time or date — if they can’t wait for you they will find someone else.

2. “I’M REALLY NOT THE MOST QUALIFIED PERSON FOR THE JOB”

If you don’t feel that you have adequate skills to take on a task, that’s okay. It’s better to admit your limitations up front than feel overwhelmed down the road.

3. “I JUST DON’T HAVE ANY ROOM IN MY CALENDAR RIGHT NOW”

Be honest if your schedule is filled! It just means you have scheduled as much as you are willing and you’re stopping to accept any new ones.

4. “I CAN’T, BUT LET ME GIVE YOU THE NAME OF SOMEONE WHO CAN”

If you aren’t available to help out, offer another qualified resource. Professionals do this all the time when they refer a client to a colleague.

5. “I HAVE ANOTHER COMMITMENT”

And it doesn’t matter what that commitment is. It could be a meeting or any appointment. The point is, you aren’t available.

6. “I’M IN THE MIDDLE OF SEVERAL PROJECTS AND CAN’T SPARE THE TIME”

Let people know that you have other accepted responsibilities — no one is going to fault you for having already filled your schedule.

7. “I’VE HAD A FEW THINGS COME UP AND I NEED TO DEAL WITH THOSE FIRST”

It happens that unexpected things happen that throw your schedule off.

8. “I WOULD RATHER DECLINE THAN END UP DOING A MEDIOCRE JOB”

Knowing that you aren’t able to deliver a quality product — for whatever reason — is reason enough for turning a request down.

9. “I’M REALLY FOCUSING MORE ON MY PERSONAL AND FAMILY LIFE RIGHT NOW”

People act ashamed of wanting to spend time with their families — like it means they don’t have goals. Having a strong family is a goal in and of itself!

10. “I’M REALLY FOCUSING MORE ON MY CAREER RIGHT NOW”

The reverse is true also — you may have to give up some civic or community duties to focus your energies on a work-related task (and that’s fine, too!)

Taking responsibility for your actions is the way to improve overall personal life. When you take control of your actions, you are putting bad habits behind you and moving forward down a new highway. At the end of the highway, you will find happiness. Responsibility is a good thing.

Sometimes we make mistakes. There is nothing wrong with this, as long as you learn from these mistakes. You are a human being and will make mistakes for the rest of your life. Mistakes is a part of life, you will have to face.

Blame:

Too many people in this world blame others for their mistakes. Taking responsibility is the way to stop blaming others and start putting the blame where it belongs. Once you learn to take blame, you will see new horizons in your future. Sadly, the law talks about society casting blame, but these people too are worse at casting blame than anyone else casts.

We see this in the media, etc. Unfortunately, we have bad examples to follow in life, so you will need to learn to become your own best example. No one can guide you to improve your life better than you can. When a person takes blame they do not dwell on the mistake they made, rather look at the options to make things right.

For instance, if you cause an accident while driving, you would take the blame and find a way to resolve the problem.

Once you learn to take reasonability for your actions, you will see the road that leads you to success. Someone taking responsibility for their action is the master of their own mind and body.

In life, you will have risks. You will need to learn to take risks whether you like it or not. Sometimes you will take risks that cause you harm, or causes harm to other people. To avoid taking risks that cause harm, try using your critical thinking cap to discover consequences first. Be willing to take chances, as well as participating even if you feel it is stupid.

Many people say, I am probably going to ask another stupid question. The fact is there are no stupid questions. The point being, don’t be afraid to ask questions when in doubt. In fact, when in doubt don’t do it.

When you are willing to join in with others to make your life better, take responsibility for your actions, etc, you are improving your life. a person willing to improve their life is not sitting on the back burner. This person is taking the steps, playing the game of life and taking action to achieve his or her goals.

Are you a generalist?

Do you take interest in all things around you? Do you keep an open mind when something good comes your way? Are you willing to learn? If you take action to acquire these skills you will successfully walk through life without running backwards taking responsibility for bad mistakes you made.

Do you accept the unknown?

The unknown can become your best friend. When you learn to accept the unknown, it can help you improve your overall personal life. For instance, if you know English are you willing to learn French. Broaden your horizons and I promise you that you will improve your overall personal life.

Do you acknowledge your limitations?

We all have limits. We must set limits for our self each day. If you fail to set these limits, you will spend the rest of your life casting blame, since you will live in a chaotic world.

Gathered a few friends on a table and started drinking and chatting in a pub lately.

After some round of drinks, discovered that everyone around the table is looking for opportunities outside. Reason being, as follows

• Cannot work along well with boss
• Too much of work
• Clearing others’ mess
• Not enough money
• Increment not enough to sustain the lifestyle
• Looking for better job opportunity
• Internal politics
• Retrenchment
• And many more

With the escalating living standard, inflation is climbing, commodities price raises gradually. However, our monthly salary rises much much slower than the inflation rate. Thus we are always poorer than the economy. How can one survive?

A wise man says. If you want to survive, you shall not work for others. You should work for yourself.

Simple lay man terms: Be an Entrepreneur and earn money for yourself. Not working for others and trade your time with the limited money.

Are you in your comfort zone and trading your time with money.

Or are you exploring new ways to make yourself to achieve financial freedom.

For a fact, I am exploring new ways always. What about you?